Friends, I want you to go away.
And obvi not in the sense of going away from this website or our friendship or any of those things. But I want you to go away. Get away. Take just a teeny tiny bit of time for yourself.
I am not talking about vacation. Don’t start your list of excuses just yet!
I am talking about a one night get away. A one night go away all by yourself. This is a thing that is easier than you think. More attainable than you think. And I’m here to give you some ideas and resources on how to make that happen.
This weekend, I had the pleasure of attending Soul Care Saturday in Austin, TX hosted by Susie Davis. The day was amazing. I’ll share more about that another time but that’s not what this post is about. Evan and I have great friends that live in Austin that welcome us into their home anytime we are in town… but on the eve of Soul Care Saturday, I got a hotel room. All by myself. I stayed there alone, even though Evan and my friends were just 4 miles away.
This may sound weird to some but it will sound like heaven to others. And I am here to encourage you to all see it as good and try it out for yourself. I got to the room about 5:00. I watched a silly movie while I perused all my dinner options on Uber Eats (a treat we do not get at the farm). I ended up ordering Italian. The thing I wanted. No one else’s opinion. Just me. Mozzarella cheese sticks, crispy artichokes, chicken parmesan and a cold sprite! I ate my dinner in silence, watched more TV, scrolled a little bit of social media, watched an online course from Kat Lee’s Hello Mornings Academy. And then turned off the light at 10:30 and went to sleep in full darkness and silence, also something I do not get at the farm. I woke up on my own at 7:30 this morning. 9 full, uninterrupted hours of sleep.
Everyone deserves this. And I do believe, with a little planning, you can have it. I want to be clear here real quick… this is not a husband and wife date night. This is not a staycation. This is you going away. Going away to be alone, outside of your home and your people and your obligations and resting.
Rest is important. Some of my favorite words about rest…
“You are worth the quiet moment. You are worth the deeper breath. You are worth the time it takes to slow down, be still, and rest.” -MHN
“Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” 2 Corinthians 4:16
I am going to take all of your reasons/excuses and see if I can possibly debunk them.
- A hotel room is too expensive… I am not suggesting you get a luxury hotel with fancy room service in a different city than where you live. You can find a Best Western Plus or a Holiday Inn Express in any city for less than $100. Even if it is right up the road… it is going away.
- I still don’t have $100 to just spend on myself… Girl, I get it. And I don’t want you to be stressed about it or feel guilty while you are there. So, here is the deal. You are going to be tired in 3 months also. PLAN AHEAD. Save $10 every week for 12 weeks and you will have $120. That’s one less Chick-fil-A meal, one less Starbucks coffee run. You can do it! Better yet… sell something. Take some clothes to Buffalo Exchange or Plato’s Closet and let that stuff go!
- I don’t have anyone to watch my kids… Again, PLAN AHEAD. Tell your husband, ask your mom, ask a friend… and give them notice. “Can you watch Billy and Susie overnight on a Friday night in 2 months?” is much different than saying “Can you watch my kids next weekend?”
- I don’t have the time… I’m not suggesting you take a weekend. I am suggesting you take 5:00pm one night thru 11:00am the next morning. Dinner, sleep, breakfast… all alone. With no asks and no demands and no obligations. 2 meals and a sleep. That’s it.
- I can’t go out of town without my family… Again, not asking you to do that. Asking you to get a hotel anywhere, and stay in it.
- I already live alone. Why should I do that?… There are times when I feel truly rested at home and there are times when every time I sit down, I think of something else I need to be doing. Going Away eliminates that. There is no other option but to watch TV or read a book or sleep or snack… and none of those sound terrible at all.
Take some fuzzy socks, a face mask, your favorite pajamas, a book, a journal, some knitting stuff, your lap top and just enjoy the time.
My friends, I want you to go away.
Try it. Like, maybe, really, try it.
Happy Sunday… hoping it’s restful to you.